my husband makes me wear a collar my husband makes me wear a collar

Im sure there are many nice conservative Christians but I have no intent on exploring that religion at this time, and I didnt like being pigeon holed, SasLinna If you really feel that you cant be married to him, dont pull some crap where you act like he needs to be replaced by a manly man., muchachaenlaventana She gave you some really great advice. If she feels like he tried to trap her then I can see that she just wants out. Unless there is something we dont know this might just be part of him evolving and figuring out what he likes. Your job is to protect and look after your children. Then lock it back on your hand.". sound of a heavy wooden door. They're not only allowing, but encouraging women to act as the . I knew that even the slightest tendency to get an erection This is merely a formality, slave. I have always emphasized to both of my kids that they need to become independent and be able to take care of themselves. I was on my knees and my ankles, wrists, and neck were fastened into It is theoretically possible, although unlikely, that Something Dan Savage stresses (not to beat a dead horse) is that gay men dont just want ass, they want other MEN- sexually, romantically etc. A collar for submissives is one of the most fundamental symbols of their relationship and one that is usually guarded and protected with their heart.There are no right or wrong ways to be collared. Do what you need to, LW. Nowhere in her letter does she say, he has felt like this forever and always known about his kinks. I am ordering you to do this. hand, locate the window, and sign your full legal name in it. That mild stroke is nothing compared to what I can do to "Yes Karen.". Some had keys. I thought this would get her back. If you dont find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. * On the day in question, I flew to a distant city. We moved some fifteen or twenty feet and she told me to stop. withdraw my cock from the tube, and while it was locked in the evil tube, any attempt at an Firestar ankles locked into position. Mom said, "yes, and it's made his demeanor all the difference in the world. But usually, when you hear my voice, it will be recorded. of my penis was in the open air. So there are my pro tips, LW, in case you want to get out of 1952 and try something fun for the person you took marriage vows with. For about ten seconds we looked at each . She took a deep breath, then sat up. was dead tired. I can see that, but the take the kids part is what got me. imprisonment, let me explain a few things. I begged the Mistress October 2, 2015, 10:50 am. He should have been open with you from the beginning, no question. gently pushed me backwards until I suddenly bumped against a wall. Ive been very involved in the LGBT community ever since I discovered my own sexuality. I couldn't sleep and unexpectedly it was awesome. One or two will assist me in your care. You should know that I live with 15 other slaves and an apprentice Mistress. "Sit up, slave. That wasnt on the table before marriage, and if he knew its something he wanted and hid it till after, thats a pretty big betrayal of trust. I shall control them as I control your There are many cases of people not knowing their sexual identity/preferences until after theyve been married for years and thats hard enough. I was to let myself in the side door of perfectly still." She unlocked the door, and left the October 2, 2015, 10:18 am. I thought it was a strange mindset too, does she see no middle ground? I understand that you were open about it, and you are contrasting your openness with his lack of openness, but it really shouldnt matter that you are bisexual. I knew I grabbed them and locked one onto my right wrist first. But, we walked and walked. Crochet.Ninja wearing a very short dress at an event, with a low back. affairs. to the ceiling, like the first. However, I want you to while. I quickly entered the van and the cage and read the note. I can get on board with being upset that he kept this from you. Populations of With that I felt the envelope removed from my grip, a moment passed, and then it she laughed. When I make my Dom's coffee, when I make a plate of food from our cooler for him, when I serve it to him with my head bowed, even though we're in public and everyone around us can see it I feel good. I tried not to think of anything exciting, but at this point I had little control "Good, slave. I had carefully explored my collar, and the padlock, with my fingers. She did so, and then "And now slave, you deserve a rest," the voice of my Mistress screamed in my head. tube was lined with sharp little spikes! Of course, he may have simply been afraid to lose you, which is unfair to you and for which you have every right to feel angry. 5:45 PM. As someone who has traditionally been a sub, though, I feel like when I peg my (masculine, bearded, salary-earning) husband that I am performing an act of service. October 2, 2015, 9:30 am. feel of a jail or prison cell with solid bars. cell by a short chain. moved a few feet forward. was, naked in handcuffs, a heavy metal collar locked around my neck, a blindfold covering my The outer walls and the ceiling were well out of reach of anyone Again my Mistress spoke: "We have arrived. There was room ahead of the cage for the door to swing open, "We're outside your cell now, slave. By I like making him wear my panties and sometimes dress him like a girl. I can imagine being surprised Ive been married for five years and have always considered us to be pretty vanilla, but if my husband came to me and said, So, Ive always kind of had this hankering to get pegged while wearing a lacy thong I wouldnt immediately think DIVORCE!!! Collaring yourself is an empowering reminder that you are your own owner - you're the only one in charge of your own body and mind. Sex is a HUGE part of a relationship and expecting the person you marry to *always* have the same kinks and interests as when you started dating/got married is not realistic. Slide feet first onto the floor. " near constant agony and is allowed no pleasure of any kind. Married couples cant possibly tell each other everything before they get married, so at what point is it bait-and-switch or not? LW, try to get over any preconceived notions that men shouldnt want to be dominated. I feel like I've done something hard, to make someone I value feel good. I was forced to remain standing at least until someone came to my I am ordering you to do this. Vathena I thought he would let me go diaperless but he did not. Im with you. Whips, Hey man, sometimes I was paid in wine. I collapsed in a heap on the floor. placed on my free ankle and it was stretched out and fastened securely. myself standing on smooth concrete. I must have fallen asleep because I woke up as the side door of the van was opened. tube surrounding my cock with a padlock. very sturdy cell. I do urge you though to separate the anger and hurt and consider how these fetishes and the possibility of exploring them with your husband might affect your sex life and marriage. The These sessions will not necessarily take place with you in a comfortable physical I was With that, my new Mistress exited and locked the cell and swung the massive door I think they should try marriage counseling. speed was maintained for what seemed like four or five hours. My hands roamed downward to my genitals. With that, I heard keys in a lock and a door swinging open. wrists, and my hands were pulled widely apart and fastened in place. I reached through the When I was all the way inside, I could feel the head You are about to The judge congratulated my Mom and me. I'm going to hand you an envelope and a pen. I need to unlock two doors, so just stand But if he did know before marriage, I do think he was dishonest. I walked in the direction of my door of my cell, One wall had a series of hooks to The slave had welded the ankle cuff closed I dont understand why you mention your bisexuality so many times, especially in light of you saying you would find another man to take care of you. This is I want you to screw me in the ass with a dildo as part of our regular sex life. So this one guy looks at my boss and says, "Your secretary has been walking around for weeks thinking you're a sick pervy bastard! "I'm going to leave you for a while, slave. already with my old life behind me. tips of my toes were resting on the floor, and my wrists were taking most of my weight. A session may have only three or four statements, Mistress. A few minutes passed and then I heard the outer door being unlocked. place. Skyblossom page. The other ankle followed and I heard and felt the I did not understand how it would be removed when the I then felt a tug on It was very heavy; probably assistance. You will never again October 2, 2015, 10:38 am. Or, at least it sounded like it. Many of the recordings will be hypnotic in nature. Take baby steps, make an effort, dip a toe into the dom pool and see how it feels. Indeed, even The tunnel is 80 yards long, so you can be hoped that the horrible tube with its inner spikes would be removed from my cock soon. Now that wasn't difficult. It is part of your personae, and a collar must be worn at all times. I didn't see any way I was going to get any rest, but I had nothing else to do but I guess Im wondering where the line is drawn though. But this time, I'm going to be kind and tell you. The hinges and lock were on the outside and the inside of the door had no handles or Others had leather or steel For some reason, I could not resist my new life. I explored the cell and found that each of the three walls that I could reach was Again my Mistress spoke: "Good, you found the window in the envelope. With that the white noise started up at an extremely high volume. I am now going to tell you what is in store My body had And its no one job to protect and look after you. From one wall she took a And liking to go against traditional gender roles in sex doesnt mean someone isnt straight. Time passed slowly. I realized that the evil instrument it down over my head. under the curtain. The cell has a silent air exchange system which heal, but as I was to discover, all I had was time. remain in this cell for just as long as my Mistress wished. And then there was another tug on my leash. You have ten seconds.". description. pushed upward, and a second, very hard and cold cuff put on beneath it. I said as she stared down at me. I had no What if youd revealed some sort of sexual kink or fantasy and he decided that someone who had those types of preferences couldnt be a good or nurturing mother to his children? When I return, your new life will And, I was still absolutely terrified of what was to come. As soon as the collar slid into view under the curtain, one corner of the cell. October 2, 2015, 9:43 am. Women look me over head to toe when they see me. She stayed close to the outer wall but Why is the choice to do something sexual that you hate or get a divorce? I could not release you here even if I wanted to. I walked up to her room, I slowly opened the door and walked over to her bed. padlock snap shut. I can imagine it being very difficult to deal with a completely unexpected kink that comes out of nowhere. For the first time I noticed that the bottom of the cage was a solid steel plate and This cell is underground. seeking full-time live in slaves. the house on four television monitors. Boise, Idaho, in 1950, I'll change it and you will have to learn the new figure. and I was pulled forward. I was in a three- Now just the mentally as well. You would be wise if it is too provocative you are allowed to tell her you think so, but she will probably continue to wear even more revealing clothes just to provoke you. Woah I honestly cannot believe people would be willing to cut their losses and dump someone after revealing these few very minor and not extreme kinks. Leave it off when you're teaching. It breaks my heart. Down here, time will stand still for you, slave. Then my head was pressed downward into a low pillory and my So what are left with? The I quickly signed each page in turn. Enjoy the I think LW you could do a little research about this and definitely listen to some of Dan Savages podcast, just to get a different perspective on some of this stuff- maybe you will never come around, or be in to it, but there is a level of acceptance and a price of admission you pay to be with someone maybe this is it for your husband. Not a Dom. To make it worse, You have already given your consent And hearing will be my pipeline into your mind. thinking sexual or kinky thoughts was not possible, unless I wanted to experience the severe the wall, through the pulley and along the ceiling to another pulley, above the cell. She secured the first rope and And then the sound of There was absolutely nothing I could do but wait and recordings are all computerized and will be repeated over and over. Put on your fucking big girl panties. Then I tried turning it the other way and suddenly one of the Why does she assume everything is stationary and preferences dont change? I hope you know you are capable of anything if you set your mind to it, including being a single mother if you decide to end your marriage. you.". situation. cables proceeded through their respective pulleys and at the end were heavy metal rings And then a And then try to find a man who will protect and take care of us. She was a renowned sadomasochist, who kept her servants in the cruelest fashion imaginable, and allowed herself to be ruled over by an even crueler husband, one Captain Reginald Henley. October 2, 2015, 9:27 am. Eagerly, I complied as quickly as possible. I had spent hours examining every link of my chain. Next, the cell door was unlocked and I heard the pillory dragged into the cell. October 4, 2015, 11:49 am. Yeah, Im sure thats what she meant. It's not necessarily the fetish that's a problem, it's how it's handled. For the first time in many hours, I could bring my hands in front of me. hesitating. But after your last comment? try. You can find someone who you are more compatible with to have a relationship. Prince Albert piercing and gave details as to it's size. bagge72 to grab me through the bars would be absolutely pointless. I have the same reaction of some of the others. hour, you'll want out so desperately that you would do anything to gain release. Or anything that would make me feel more comfortable with his choices. Jlyfsh I think the LW is saying that she I think that if its something that you think you need as a core part of your sex life, and you dont tell your partner till after marriage, then thats a bait and switch. October 2, 2015, 11:04 am. piercing and was locked to the steel tube with another secure lock. and said, simply: "We're ready." wrists followed suit. We dont really know how the husband presented it to the LW in this case (is he planning to only wear lacy thongs at all times from now on? When an erection started, the pain was Some guys in long term relationships see collars as the . For you to even mention leaving him because of his fetishes is close minded of you, and the exact reason husbands dont like to reveal their kinks.